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Permanency Tip of the Week: How Come Everyone Isn’t Ready for the Adoption?
Ideally, we are working with youth and families who are approaching a prospective Adoption with a solid foundation of communication, support and skills. For our families, it can sometimes be puzzling and even frustrating when the youth seems to be either non-committal or beginning to back away from pursuing the Adoption. Sometimes for the Youth, it can also be puzzling and frustrating as to why they may be feeling this way. Whenever we pick up these sorts of signals, it is critical that we step in and provide both individual and collective support and guidance to help reduce a possible disruption in the process. The importance of building a bridge of validation and empathy among everyone involved needs to be the foundation of this work.
Permanency Success Story of the Week: Packers WR Jordy Nelson Finalizes Adoption of Baby Girl
KCCI Des Moines, Iowa – Before the thrilling showdown between the Green Bay Packers and the Dallas Cowboys, Packers wide receiver Jordy Nelson officially welcomed another member to his family. Nelson and his wife, Emily, adopted their baby, Addy Jo, at the Bexar County Courthouse in San Antonio on Friday. Adda Jo had been with the Nelsons since March. Texas law requires a child to live with the adoptive parents for at least six months before an adoption can be finalized…
Adda Jo is the couple’s second adopted child. They adopted their son, Brooks, in February 2015. “After we had Royal, our biological child, we were unable to get pregnant again,” Nelson said in a 2016 video posted to YouTube by Jockey Being Family. “We just figured adoption was a great way for us to grow our family.” Jockey Being Family is a nonprofit organization that helps families with postadoption services by funding national and local adoption-related nonprofit organizations. Nelson is an ambassador for the organization.
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Happy National Adoption Month, 2017!
Adoptions With Love – November is officially here, which means we can now look forward to another National Adoption Month and another #30daysoflove! As many of our readers know, National Adoption Month is a very special time of year for Adoptions With Love, and also for the many families out there that have been touched by adoption in some way…
Now, and each year forward, the U.S. Children’s Bureau sponsors National Adoption Month in efforts to spread adoption awareness, honor adoptive families, as well as bring to light the newborns and children who are still waiting for forever homes. Each year, National Adoption Month takes on a new theme. For National Adoption Month 2017, the initiative is called, “Teens Need Families, No Matter What…” act of adoption. We invite you to do the same…
The Dissonance of Relationship
Social Justice Solutions – There is nothing more complicated after a childhood of complex trauma than navigating relationships. Why? Complex trauma is relational.
We don’t have complex trauma without the failure of the primary relationships in our lives. And while the dissociation we use to stay alive is miraculous and amazing, it is also the nemesis of our adulthood. We can’t get our relationships to work because we only know extremes. Our inner parts which are created by dissociation are the source of our “all or nothing” thinking. And they make sure our relationships won’t be balanced … until we heal…
The Promise of Post-Traumatic Growth
ACEs Connection – Post-traumatic growth is the recognition that however horrific our experiences, we as human beings have incredible ability to adapt, survive and integrate, to grow stronger… and then turn around and use that experience to help others…4 Factors Leading to Post-Traumatic Growth: 1) Brutally Honest Optimism; 2) Perception of Control Over Events; 3) Coping Style; 4) Strong Sense of Self
Essay: Adoption Bridges Families, Provides Children a Home
Monroe County Post – National Adoption Day has endeavored to raise our community’s awareness surrounding adoption. While adoption numbers nationwide have remained consistent since the late 1980s, there has been a shift, particularly in New York, increasing the number of children adopted from foster care.
Children in foster care have lost what most of us take for granted — a connection to loving and nurturing parents. The chaos created by substance abuse, unaddressed mental illness and/or physical violence have left these children without safe, permanent homes…By definition, to foster means “to bring up, raise or rear,” but to adopt means “to choose or take as one’s own child.” Foster connotes something temporary, but to adopt connotes something permanent. To adopt a child is to take him from the uncertainty of not knowing where or in what conditions he will live tomorrow, to a place in a forever family. That love covers it all. A child’s age is not an impediment to adoption; we have finalized the adoptions of children on the eve of their 21st birthday to mere newborns…
After Adoption is Finalized, Transition to Becoming a Family Begins
Sentinel Source – Once an adoption is finalized, the lasting commitment to be a family extends not only until a child is grown and leaves the house, but for the rest of their lives. Because it is such a lasting relationship, adoptive parents should prepare by taking time to think through the transition period and how best to help a child arriving from adverse circumstances. Additional information is available through Information Gateway resource: Preventing Disruption/Dissolution.
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